Dating

» Cherie Burbach - dating

It's always a difficult situation when the lines of one relationship trip over into another one. And this is certainly the case with the two of you. It's one reason emotional affairs are such a problem today: when someone feels bad about their relationship they seek out the comfort of a "friend" rather than their partner.

You asked about feeling bad. It sounds like this relationship was looking for a break up. However, keep in mind that if this person is someone who seeks out others in times of stress rather than dealing directly with his partner the same thing could happen to you somewhere down the line.

I would use caution before moving ahead. If this man was really done with his relationship, why didn't he end it before starting another one up with you? These are questions you should ask yourself (and him) to set your relationship off on the right course.

There is another danger in starting another relationship before you technically end the previous one and that is you don't get the distance to truly get over it. While overlapping relationships may feel better because there is no "alone" time, it also causes a lack of perspective that helps in any new relationship going forward.

Feeling bad? What's done is done at this point. You didn't cause the break up but that doesn't mean it was right to date someone in a murky situation like that. Rather than feel bad, use caution at first with this relationship so you don't end up like his live in.