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» ninoszag - my ex hates me

throughout our 1 year and 6 month reltionship we were verymuch in love. no major arguements and a fair amount of communication. then she began to pick fights where there werent any. she then left to new jersey on vacation for 2 weeks where i was completely ignored, returned and did the same. when my birthday came around the corner she could care less about being there and showed up about 5 hours late. she went on vacation again and we decided we were gonna have a serious talk about everything when she came back. another 2 weeks of a cold shoulder. when she came back instead of me being angry i was actually so happy to hear from her i forgot about everything else. i thought everything was goiin good for a day or 2. and then out of the blue she breaks up with me. now im sittin here 1 month later and beggin her to be with me and using every last resort to not lose her completely.right now we sit as just friends with no thoughts of getting back together. shes been hangin out with a few new guys she claims are just friends and it bothers me. ifeel like dying because all i do is cry, at work, at home, beforte i go to sleep, in the car, when i hear music... what do i do... i feel like shes getting back at me or tryin to teach me a lesson

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» Cherie Burbach - my ex hates me

In response to my ex hates me posted by ninoszag:

It's hard to imagine that some people can just come and go from our lives. Especially when we love them and when they've been a big part of things for us. But the reality is, sometimes breaking up is the best thing. Not only that, but leaving your ex behind can be much better than trying to stay friends.

Here's the thing. You said she treated you badly for quite a while, and instead of addressing the situation you were just happy to see her again. This means that the situation was still out there and unresolved. She KNOWS she treated you badly. She, for whatever reason, was done with the relationship long before she broke up with you. (Someone that loves you doesn't show up five hours late for your birthday.)

The question is, you KNOW she treated you badly, so why are you even bothering to waste your thoughts on this girl? She's history and BE GLAD she is. You could have gone on a long time getting used by her. The only reason you're unhappy about her new life is because you haven't moved on. You need to forget about her and stop seeing her. Don't hang out with her as friends. She isn't acting like a friend. Move on completely from her. Wish her the best, and mean it, and then find someone that will treat you with respect and love. Don't waste another minute of your precious life thinking about a negative relationship that is better off in the past.

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