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» Cherie Burbach - How should I handle this? This is killing me......

It sounds like your boyfriend has been doing a lot of crying. First, to his female friend (supposedly about the two of you) and then to you about how he screwed up. He did screw up - let me tell you why.

I get asked continually why I take such a hard stand on emotional affairs, and this is a perfect example. When you stand on the edge, you are going to fall off. It was fine for your boyfriend to have a female pal, but he failed to tell you about it. When you confronted him after you found out, he lied again. To make matters worse, this "friend" knew things about your relationship that should have stayed between the two of you.

You are absolutely right in saying it was wrong to talk to this girl at 2 and 3 in the morning. That's what being on the edge of appropriate behavior is. Did he have a true, blue "affair" with this girl? Define affair. Does it involved lying and sneaking around? Then yes. Does it matter at this point if they were intimate? Nope.

Either this guy's into head games, or he really doesn't know what he wants. So who needs that? No you, sister! You were smart to dump this schmuck. You need to find someone that will be honest with you from the start, and when you ask him a direct question, actually give you a direct answer. You need someone to treat you well, which this guy certainly was not doing.