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» puchilu - how can I make things alright again?

Hi,

I experienced a very similar situation. I was talking to a guy online who was considered married in his home town, but he had been separated from his wife the entire time I knew him which was about 3-4 yrs. He had no interest in going back to her, but he was a pastor and his religious beliefs kept us from being in a real relationship. We grew closer and feel in love in a way I have never felt before. Sadly, he had to move back to his home town trying to get a divorce that seemed dim to none. During that time, we thought it best to move on because it didn't seem like things would work out. If he was able to get the divorce, we still wouldn't have been able to be in a relationship because it's adultery in the eyes of many. Anyway, he will contact me from time to time and sometimes I would hate it when he contacts me, not because I have grown out of love, but because I was still in love. I wanted to get rid of the pain and being love sick. I felt when he contacted me, I had to relive the pain of not having the one person I loved to the core of my soul. So, perhaps that is why your friend doesn't want to meet up. For me, I dont really want a friendship with him because my love was too strong to just say let's be friends. NO, I don't want to be friends. A love like this would want to be more than friends. It is either a love relationship or none at all. And perhaps that's why he's remained his distance.

-- posted by puchilu