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» Cherie Burbach - how can I make things alright again?

In response to how can I make things alright again? posted by dynamite120:
Dynamite120,
It sounds like you've come to the right decision. Make no mistake, guys are NOT afraid to fall in love with someone. Women sometimes believe that men are afraid to let them in, and that's simply not true. When it's right, they easily fall into love with someone. Have you ever met a guy who was friends with a girl for a long time - and they might have danced around dating or even gone out a few times - but their relationship never advances - and then suddenly the guy meets a new girl and he's married very quickly? It means that the new girl he met WAS the one, and the other one wasn't.
I know you say you only want friendship for him, but it does sound like your feelings go deeper than that. You may believe that you do not want a physical relationship with him, but you might want an emotional one. And he already has that with the women he's with. The worse part is, you're investing emotions in someone that will never give them back to you! He might enjoy the attention you give him, but if he hasn't returned your emotional feelings by now he never will. It's obvious he isn't afraid to let someone in because he's with someone else. I hope you are truly able to let go of him and wish him the best, then move on to someone who deserves (and wants) your love and attention in his life. No women should have to convince a guy to hang out with her - there are just too many great ones out there for you!