Dating

» Cherie Burbach - re: ex boyfriend :(

In response to re: ex boyfriend posted by sarah55545:
Did you ever hear about those guys who only use girls for sex? Well there's also the flip side, the ones that only hang out with the girl when they feel like having the relationship "stuff" (like hand holding, long talks, going to events, etc.) It sounds very much like your guy hangs out with you because he likes your company. But he doesn't want you for the WHOLE relationship and uses these "qualities" you have (that he says he doesn't like) as an excuse not to have to deal with a whole relationship. I suspect if he met someone else, he'd dump you as his friend, too.

What are YOU getting out of this arrangement? You say you're still in love with them, so he gets the attention of having someone around that adores him while in the meantime YOU don't bother to look for anyone else since you're always with him. He has you whenever he snaps his fingers, but when things get a little too close - he brings up this issue of your "qualities" and says he's unsure if you're "the one."

The harsh reality is, he KNOWS you're not the one for him, that's why you're not his girlfriend.

Maybe he doesn't like being alone. Maybe he just likes knowing that he gets your attention. Whatever his reasons for stringing you along like this all have to do with his benefit, not yours.
So what's a great girl like you wasting time with a guy like this?

Now, don't remind me about your "qualities," because hey - we ALL have them! When someone loves us they love the whole package - irritating qualities and all. It doesn't mean they think we're perfect, it means we're perfect FOR THEM.

Do yourself a favor and move on to a guy that adores you. It's that simple. The longer you spend your time, energy, and emotions on this guy - the longer it will take you to find someone great for you. And there IS someone great for you out there.