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» furby2882 - did I make the right choice

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. We have bought a house together. He is in the Navy and goes away a lot and I get very lonely. 3 years ago, I waited for him for 6 months and 2 days after he got home he broke up with me because he wanted to hang with his mates. We got back together and ever since every time he gets back from sea, whether its 2,3 or 4 months he doesnt want to spend quality time with me, he wants to hang with his mates. this is a huge issue for me and i have told him how i feel all the time, he always says it wont happen again but it always does. Recently he was away for 6 weeks and when he got home I split up with him. I moved home for a week and have now moved back into our house so we are living together. My reasons included the above issue, not including me in his decisions - holidays, people staying with us for months etc, no real conversations, never taking me anywhere on weekends and so on. I wait for him for months and when he's home it would be nice to go for a drive or go to a cafe on the weekends but he never wants to. Anyway, it has now been 2 weeks and he said he was going to propose to me, yet he hasnt tried once to get me back. He says he will change that he was thinking about all this stuff the weeks prior to me leaving him. He has also been hanging out with this girl and stayed the night there. He says nothing happened. I saw them both out last ngiht and the night club and she was all over him, however he wasnt all over her. Do I give him another chance and see if he can change these issues? How can I trust him after knowing he's been at her house after only one week. Im confused and dont know if i should give it one last shot. He goes away for 6 months again in 2 months time. I dont know if maybe thats why i called it off, because i was scared of what might happen when he gets home. please help. Im 25.

-- posted by furby2882