Dating

» Cherie Burbach - confused

There are a lot of things going on, and the physical distance is the least of the problem.

First of all, you broke up with her when you got a DUI. Couples want to work thing out support each other, and you didn't give her that chance. Of course she was going to be unhappy. It seems like you pull her close only to push her away. The only time you finished your citizen application was after you broke up.

It isn't really true that you've "been in a relationship" for three years. Because of the distance, you haven't had a chance to spend the quality time necessary to forge a real relationship. This has been a series of push and pull events that have let you both feel unhappy. Your ex is right, neither of you was getting the emotional support you needed.

Long distance relationships, if they are going to work, need to start from a place of strength. The relationship takes more than the average amount of work to overcome the lonliness and feelings of isolation. They can work, but only if both people are absolutely committed to make it work. The long-distance situation can be weathered by a couple that has already been in a relationship, but to start one with that against you is very difficult.

If she has found someone new, be happy for her and let her go so she can finally move on with her life. I would encourage you to seek out professional counseling so you understand why you seem to push people away.