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» serendipity09 - he left me hanging

Hi, Im 27 years old and recently dated a 33 years old guy whom I met on one of social network site. We live in a different city. We met (physically) 3 months ago and eversince the communication between us is getting intense (phone call, email and text message is everyday routine). He did said that he wanted to have a serious relationship with me and I told him to be slowly because I still have the trauma from my last heartache. But then with all his sweet attitudes and the way he showed me how he really interested in me Im beginning to break my walls and open my heart for him. He even came again to visited me 1 month after our first meeting. We had our first fight over some stupid lines I said that offended him but the next day after my apology we made up again. But after he got back from his 2nd visit he was change, he was pulling away from me, he told me that he needs time alone because he had this problem at work (the company did not renew his contract, he lost his job) So, I did gave him space for him to clear his problems but it doesnt get any better. The communication between us is slowly ended. Sometimes he still texted me or sent email just to ask how am I doing, but Im feeling that there's something change and after 2 months he acted so sketchy, he told me he got a job offer in his hometown but still he didnt mention anything about how things will go for us. So, I told him that I need an explanation from him about what is really happen and things between us but he didnt give any straight answer he just said that he didnt know what to say at this point and need to think what he want to do with us. So, now Im really confuse. Why cant he be direct with me? Is this his sign for ending up our relationship? But why? That is the questions Ive been trying to get from him. Ive prepare myself to move on (although it hurts me a lot) but somehow a part of me still want him back. Please tell me what should I do? Do I have to ask him again? or just leave him and move on?

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» Cherie Burbach - he left me hanging

In response to he left me hanging posted by serendipity09:

You're asking about what you should do about this relationship, but in reality it sounds as if this relationship never really got off the ground. Meeting someone online or via a social network site is great, but remember you're just MEETING them. You're not dating - even if you do end up meeting them in person. In order to have a real relationship, you need to spend time together and deal with lifes ups and downs. Only then can you decide if you really have something.

It definitely sounds as if this person has given you their answer. He doesn't know what to do with the two of you because there isn't a real relationship going on. It never really got off the ground, so there isn't much more to talk about. My advice is to be thankful you met a great friend for a while, but now you both need to move on to other things in your life.

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