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» sarah55545 - re: Help, does my ex want me back???

Hi, thank you very much for your response. I really appreciate it.

I understand your viewpoint and that you are definitely not getting all the details which doesn't make it easy to give advice if you don't know everything and both sides of the story.

I can tell you honestly that there is more to us than 'friendship'. He's very comfortable in being alone and has always valued his space and independence.
In fact, for him to keep me around and want me there is against his character.

Also, keep in mind that he is only 23 years old. I don't think meeting someone else would be an issue...he's never had trouble meeting girls and most 23 year old men, or the ones that I know at least have no problems moving on, especially in a physical manner.

I think for him not to say anything to me, and for him not to be there for me...and only call me when its convenient for him, and only want me around when he wants to and pretend to be 'together' would make sense if he was lonely or just doesn't want to be alone.

Wouldn't the fact that he is pursuing me, admitting to having feelings for me, calling me constantly and cancelling plans with his buddies to go out (and potentially meet other girls) say something?

Also, I don't think its true that you take the whole package if you love someone. You can love someone and not be able to deal with certain things...And as I said, he broke it off with me because he felt as though he was holding me back (ie. I was running away from my problems and relying on him to mask them - I was dealing with some very difficult personal issues).

To make things clear, I also gave him an ultimatum and said we either stay together or we break up and he didn't know waht to do so I broke it off.

I don't know...maybe I'm wrong here. But for someone to be fine with speaking once a week, and seeing the other periodically and making a point to go out to clubs or talk to other girls suddenly makes a change this extreme, theres got to be something going on.

Again, could be wrong and I definitely value your opinion otherwise I wouldn't post on here but I think my situation is different in this case. I also told him if we broke up I'd never get back together with him out of biterness...

-- posted by sarah55545