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» fiendswithoutr - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

What should I do? I am dating with a man who is 29 years older than me??? We are connected...but I am scared that people around me wont accept him.So what should I do with this? do you guys think I am crazy to date someone 29 years older..?

-- posted by fiendswithoutr

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» Salemwitch666 - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

In response to I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me posted by fiendswithoutr:

I don't think your crazy at all. In fact, i'm dating a man that is 15 years older then me, and I have thought that same thing, will people think i'm strange, will people be weird around him and treat him differently? But I really don't care anymore, because I feel very strongly for this man, and him for me, and that's all that should matter. We get along great! And I love how he is with me. As long as your happy, and he treats you right, it should matter what others think, because it's only going to cause problems for you in the end, and cause you unnessacary stress! Have fun, live for the moment, and forget what anyone eles has to say!

-- posted by Salemwitch666

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» Cherie Burbach - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

In response to I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me posted by fiendswithoutr:

I definitely do NOT think you are crazy. We love who we love. People fall for each other for different reasons. Once upon a time I also went out with a guy much older than me and we had a great relationship for many years. Eventually, tho, we grew apart because we had different objectives. I wanted to get married and have children and he had already done those things. Besides that, we realized we were better off friends than anything else, and parted ways.

I think that relationships with large age differences can work, but it really depends on what you both want out of life and how much you have in common. Age is just one factor. Studies show that the couples who do the best also share religious views, sense of humor, and outlook on life.

So if this guy treats you well and you feel loved and respected - enjoy it! If your friends are really your friends they will understand. What's important is what you think.

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» THIKK_MISS - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

In response to I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me posted by fiendswithoutr:

Honey let me tell you something...Im dating a man that is 28 1/2 years older than my self....and i love the man with all my heart and soul...who cares what other people think as long as you two are sold and yall desire the same things outta life..than go for it...my man is not only 28 1/2 years older than me he's in a wheelchair..but the chair doesnt stop him from doing the things he like best....he drives a car, he mows the lawn, he blows snow, he walks the dog, he cooks, he works...he does the things an able body man can do...and not only that our love making is like the 4th of july fireworks......and no your not crazy for loving who you love...age aint nothing but a number....never have doubts because that is the devil.

-- posted by THIKK_MISS

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» Cherie Burbach - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

In response to I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me posted by THIKK_MISS:

Yes, exactly! Thanks for posting!

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» lost22 - Being with an older man...help!

Hello,

I am really hoping someone will be able to shed some light to my situation. I am 21 and I like an older man. He is 43 (soon to be 44). It's a 22 year age difference between us. The age thing doesn't bother me at all, i feel that age is only a number and you are as young or old as you feel and act.

The problem is: How do i ask him out, or something like that. He's not married, no kids, but i think he has a girlfriend. They are not engaged either. I see him in a professional setting usually once every week or every other week. He is my masseur, so there does pose a bit of awkwardness in asking him in that setting.

My objective if i can't date him, is to just be friends with him, because i'd rather have that than nothing. We talk quite a bit, and share personal information, i just don't know how to take the next step, what to say or do or anything. Mostly, i'm scared of being rejected and him knowing how i feel.

Can anyone shed some light?

-- posted by lost22

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» Cherie Burbach - Being with an older man...help!

In response to Being with an older man...help! posted by lost22:

Given the set of circumstances you've described, my advice is to find someone better suited to you, both in age and accessibility. The fact is, there are certain people in your life you shouldn't date: your boss, your teacher, and your parent's friends, to name just a few. Your masseur is another one.

Also, you mention he might have a girlfriend. This means it's NOT OKAY to flirt with, chat about personal issues, or ask him out.

With these other issues, age really becomes the least of your problems. I'm sure there are many guys closer to your experience level that would be better suited to you.

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» 66Capricorn - I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me

In response to I am dating a man who is 29 years older than me posted by fiendswithoutr:

I'm in a wonderful relationship with a 57 year old man,who doesn't look it at all! I'm 41. I thought for a bit about our age difference, but after talking to freinds about it,they (for the most part) said as long as you two care and love each other, it should not matter. We have everything from music,(I love stuff from the 40's-60's), religious viewpoints,morals,same weird sense of humour,and to a certain extent, goals. We differ a bit on being succesful as for as a job goes. I like someone who's a bit of a go-getter,he's a bit more laid back, but when it comes to his music, he puts out all the stops. He's a professional musician at night, has a ok day job at a musical instrument distribution plant. We also live in different states,me in California,he's in Ohio! We met when a freind and I went to Vegas last Sept. He was playing with a group and all three of us hit it off. I was with another guy who's like a best freind to me but we all got along GREAST! And still do. Had some issues with being so apart from each other,LDR's are tough! I'm gonna fly out to Ohio and see him this summer, meet some of his family. He already has two sons who are cloer to my age,36 and 37. He's been divorced since 1980, was married 10 years. Still is freinds with the ex, but marriage just didn't work out. We are taking it slow. But he's one of the most caring, loving and considerate guys I have ever met! I say go for it!

-- posted by 66Capricorn

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