Do you marry someone because they're right for you? Or do you get married when you're ready?
- You’ve gotta meet the right person at the right time.
Ever heard of this sentiment? I used to think people that said this just felt like getting married suddenly and hooked up with whoever happened to be standing next to them.
As I got older, I realized this was not true. It’s takes the right person AND the right time in your life. Combined. If you have one without the other, it just ain’t gonna work. Just before I met my husband, I’d just been through a bunch of things personally and yet, I knew a tide had turned in my life. I wanted to publish my first book and my career was taking on a different trek, and all in all I felt good. Granted, I hadn’t met anyone special in quite a while, but I was dating and had a lot of friends and things were good.
And then, I met my husband.
I should say first, though, that I’d met him before. At least once, and probably a bunch of times more. After we got married we realized we probably met fifteen years before, when he was still in high school and I was a few years older. It’s no wonder we didn’t date then! Of course, neither of us remember the meeting.
We also had hung out for years at all the same places. I even remember meeting one of his friends at a party once, so you know he was probably there too. And yet, it took the world wide web and fifteen years for us to be officially introduced. By then, it was the right time.
I’m convinced that we both had to go through the things we went through with our families and our relationships in order to get to the point where we could meet and finally hook up for good. If we had tried dating before, things probably wouldn’t have worked out the same. Right person, right time.
