The right words to communicate with everyone you've been emailing that you've found a new love. What to say and how to say it.
Q:
How do I tell someone I'm pulling my online profile?
I have just decided to pull my profile, how do I tell other people I’ve been corresponding with that I won’t be emailing them anymore? I don’t want to be rude and just stop contacting them without explanation.
A.
When I was Internet dating, I met a great guy I had been emailing for coffee one day. It was our first meeting, and we really hit it off. He said he was going out of town and would contact me in two weeks when he returned.
Well, two weeks went by and I still hadn't heard from him. He didn't seem like the type to say he would call when he had no intention of doing so, but still, I shrugged it off. After all, since he hadn't yet called I was still emailing other people and meeting them for coffee. I didn't think twice about it.
Another couple weeks went by when I received an email from this guy, saying he was sorry he never called but when he went out of town he ended up meeting a great girl. They really hit it off and he was very happy with her. He said he wanted to see how things would go with this girl. If things turned out poorly, he'd contact me again and if I wasn't dating someone myself, we could try to go out if I still wanted to do that.
When someone sends you an email like this, how can you help but be happy for them? He sounded so genuinely glad he'd met this girl that I found myself rooting for the two of them. I thought his contacting me to tell what happened was extremely thoughtful. I vowed that if I ever met someone great myself, I would use his email as an example of how to handle things.
A few months later, I did just that. I sent a few guys I'd been emailing this message:
"Hi. I know we've been corresponding, and while I've enjoyed it I just wanted to let you know that I've met someone really great. We are going to see where our relationship is headed, so I'll be pulling my profile. I hope you'll be happy for me. If, for some reason things don't work out, I hope I can contact you again if you are still interested."
Feel free to use this example. And good luck with your new relationship!
