Are you one of those rare folks these days that is still a bit leery about Internet dating? Meeting someone online is easy with the right attitude and approach.
Meeting people over the Internet has never been more popular, however, every once in a while I get letters from people asking me if Internet really works, if it’s safe, and if it’s a good idea. First off, yes, online dating really works. It is a good idea. It is safe. You just have to know how to go about it.
If you’re still hesitant about joining the “e” crowd, let me share some of the reservations I had about online dating before I did it. I had the same kind of trepidation that many people have when they begin to Internet date. I thought that if I was meant to meet Mr. Right, I just would somehow. On my own. At the grocery store, or in a restaurant, or sitting next to me at church. And I did meet guys this way – but none of them were the right one.
Despite this the thought of Internet dating seemed like a desperate thing. I was so hesitant that when one of my (married) friends suggested I look on the Internet for a date, I took it as an insult. Didn’t they think I could find someone on my own? A few of my pals even sent me links with men they thought I might like. When I took a look at them my first reaction was, these guys are cute and seem normal… so what’s wrong with them? If you’re asking yourself this, too, well I’ve got news for you… the same question could be directed at you. The answer of course is that nothing’s wrong with you! You just haven’t met the right person yet.
The great thing about Internet dating is that it takes some of the guesswork out of meeting people. After all, everyone on the system is looking to meet someone. So if someone responds to you, they are at least a little bit interested. Nowhere else do you get this kind of assurance. When you approach someone in public and they smile and talk to you, they could be interested in you, bored, or just too polite to tell you to go away. Internet dating levels the playing field. You can get to know them a bit before you even meet them, and that certainly put me ahead of some of the blind dates I’d had with set-ups from friends. With Internet dating, you have the ability to, in a sense, control your destiny. You just need to know the right way to go about it.
