My guy just won't commit to holiday plans until the last minute. What should I do?
Dear Dating@Suite101.com:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years, and I’ve met his family on severeal occasions.
The problem is, every year he hems and haws about holiday plans. He can’t even tell me whether he wants to spend time with my family. I never know what to tell my family until the last possible minute. Sometimes he wants me to come along, and other times he’ll tell me no at the last minute. Then I hang out with my family but I’m bummed because I can’t be with him.
I’ve tried talking to him about this but he just shrugs. What can I do?
He won’t make plans. Sometimes he wants you to come with, other times not. But he makes all the decisions and you just go along with it, even if it means disappointing your family?
Honey, this guy either has another girlfriend or just doesn’t give two figs about you.
What can you do? Tell him you’d like to plans for the holidays. If he shrugs, say nothing and make plans with your own family. If he calls at the last minute (because he’s bored or suddenly decides he doesn’t want to deal with his family alone) tell him you tried to make plans with him but he refused to talk.
Then hang up. Have fun with your family. Focus on the people that love you so you’ll remember what it feels like. Then find a guy that makes you feel loved… not like you’re the consolation prize.
