Blind Dates Suck... Or Do They?

She is sick of the guys her friend picks for her. How can she politely say "no thanks"?

Dear Dating@Suite101:

One of my friends is always trying to set me up. I’ve been out with her husband’s best friend, her cousin, and even one of her old boyfriends. (Which was slightly weird.) I appreciate her trying, but some of the guys she picks for me… YUCK. Once or twice it’s actually made me depressed to see who she thinks I belong with. I do want to find someone special… but I’m tired of these stupid blind dates she has me go on. How can I politely tell her to back off?

Ah yes… the blind date. The anticipation… getting ready… perhaps, even shaving your legs… and for what! Only to open the door and see someone you wouldn’t normally look twice at!

I know where you’re coming from. A couple of my friends tried to set me up with some real doozies, too. But you know what? The thing with dating is you never really know what’s around the next corner, and that’s what’s so exciting about it.

Here’s my advice. If you are really tired of dating, tell your friend you just need a break from it for a while. Give her a timeframe – a month or so. The next time you do go back on a set up, opt for a coffee date instead. That way you won’t be devoting an entire evening to someone, and yet you’ll still be getting out and meeting new people. Besides that, when our friends set us up, it’s usually when someone shares our outlook, interests, or personality. And those are the types of people you should get to know. The ones you wouldn’t normally look twice at? Well one of those folks could very well be the right guy for you for the long haul.