Think fighting is a bad thing? Think again.
No one likes to argue, and that includes me. But sometimes, it's necessary. Especially when you're in a relationship.
This seems to be a hard concept for women in particular to realize. Some of us were raised to believe that airing our opinions was a bad thing. It wasn't "ladylike."
But I have a few friends that bottle up all their negativity with their partner because they don't want to appear angry. The thing is? They ARE angry. So what they do instead (probably without even realizing it) is nitpick quietly, thinking that's a better option. They actually believe this helps them "keep the peace."
It doesn't. All they're doing is sabotaging their relationship in a different way. And men don't understand this arguing style AT ALL.
Every seen guys argue? They're direct, they spit out what's on their mind and then they're over it. So imagine when a woman starts acting passive/aggressive toward their man and the guy doesn’t understand why. Since she never brought up her issue directly, he thinks everything’s fine.
Meanwhile, the woman resents the fact that the man doesn’t get it. That he can’t read her mind.
Well, ladies, he can’t. And what may seem obvious to you is not at all obvious to him. That’s why you’ve got to embrace healthy conflict in your relationship. Doing so will make both of you a lot happier.
