For single women, fishing for a partner who you can not only love but be happy with can be a major quest. The obvious things are the often the most important to remember.
Fishing for a man can bring in a lot of catches on the hook, but most need to be thrown back in - not because of any flaw on the man's part, but because they simply are not right for you.
Know thyself
In order to be successful in finding the right man, a woman first needs to know herself and she needs to love herself. Loving yourself is paramount to a relationship working out. Knowing who you are, your likes and dislikes, your feelings about various things, and your own personality are key factors necessary for a healthy relationship. Generally speaking, you'd want to find a partner who matches your personality.
It sounds easy enough, but it's not that simple. Too often both men and women bottle up their emotions, their feelings, their thoughts. Maybe it's for fear of rejection, maybe they are afraid to share how they truly feel, maybe they don't even know how to share, maybe they are just scared to love again after past hurts. Whatever the reason, in order for a relationship to work, both parties have to be open and be themselves so that who they are shines through, rather than hidden behind a wall.
Honesty is key
The kind of man you want should be someone who accepts you for who you are and loves you as you are. He doesn't want to change you. He doesn't criticize your looks. He doesn't make you feel inferior or that you aren't good enough. He loves you as you are, loves your personality, loves everything about you. He is open and honest with you. He won't tell you what you want to hear, he will tell you the truth. He's understanding and considerate, and he listens when you share your intimate thoughts and feelings with him.
How things are in the day-to-day
The next thing to consider when fishing for a man is everyday life. A woman should look a partner who she can share daily life experiences with. If you aren't into outdoor activities whatsoever, chances are that you will not be happy with a man who lives to camp, fish, hike, or climb mountains. If you absolutely love the opera and he hates it, that's workable. If, however, you cannot live without attending and playing every opera ever performed, and he hates it, you might want to look for a man who loves the opera. Obvious? Yes, but how often do we try to shoehorn ourselves into relationships that have these kinds of barriers?
Compatibility is necessary for a happy and healthy relationship.
We all want to be loved and accepted. But too often we want it so bad that we settle for anyone. Unfortunately, just loving someone isn't a reason to marry them. The reason is that even though it might be love, if the personalities clash, it won't likely last. A woman wants to find a man who fits her - who knows she thinks and feels, that loves her for who she is in all ways, that has the same likes and dislikes for the most part, that she can share her intimate thoughts with, and that she can trust.
Poor choices
If, however, you are only fishing for a man who has money and material things, it's best to throw the fishing pole away right now. Money can be gone in a heartbeat, and it doesn't keep you warm at night in the way a loving relationship can.
On the other side of the coin is the man who only wants a woman for her looks. Needless to say, if a person is only wowed by looks and uses you as a trophy, throw him back and look for one who loves the real you. Looks fade, but real beauty stays.
In order to hook the person who's right for you, get to know yourself. Go fishing for the man who makes your heart smile, that is always there, that loves who you are, that makes you laugh, that's honest with you, and who knows whether you prefer dark, milk or white chocolate.
