Why Conflict Arises in a Relationship
The Wrong Choice of Words Instigates a Volatile Relationship
Sep 15, 2009
How many times has a fight escalated to heated heights, only to end in huffy silences and tears? Ask a friend who has shared a similar situation and chances are she would not be able to pinpoint the start of this emotional eruption. It is also probable that she might not remember what started the verbal wrestle in the first place.
Prompt & Rash Responses are Discouraged When Arguing
There are simple enough reasons as to how and why the fight got so out of hand. As the proverb goes, “Patience is a virtue.” This statement has been vastly underestimated for its significance; and as such, couples all over the world have paid often an immeasurable price for their oversight. In many a similar case, the individual involved should instead take the initiative to swallow rash retorts and hear out what the other party has to say. This is a simple reprieve needed in the midst of the entire tirade to pick up oversights of the partner's hurts and ultimately see that preventive actions could have been undertaken to avoid the dispute.
Rash retorts in relationship arguments often contain words that intentionally hurt a partner. As it is, it is always too late to retrieve the harsh words used in an attempt to ward off the “attack” from a verbal opposition. Apologies thereafter seem feeble attempts to make things right. Hence it is of immense worth to hold one’s tongue and keep back the seething remarks in order to tap the emotional wellspring from where the issues stem from.
Take a “We” Approach to Encourage Mutual Understanding
An act of impatience robs one of eternal redemption; and proverbs of yesteryears have proven for decades that urbanites of today should not forgo. Avoid the hurtful intent of words used in phrases such as “you always...” or “you never...” Such battle-sought beginnings only finger the blame untoward the other and never ever serve any other purpose than to alienate one partner from another. Instead of allowing the rage to spiral upwards in a heated debate, both partners should exert a conscious effort to encourage each other with a "Now I know how you feel about Topic A. I promise to make amends wherever possible so as to prevent us from arguing again." Agreeing to disagree takes personal willpower and a ton of courage.
Maintaining a relationship requires concerted efforts of both parties to encourage the youthful lust that pumps in the veins of a healthy relationship. Exercise enduring patience and a listening ear. Avoid rashness, for it is from there that foul intentions and words rear its ugly heads. Holding hands every day assures of the mutual affection for one another with a simple peck on the cheek and a warm bear hug. There aren’t easy solutions to end all conflicts; but a good start essentially promises a smooth sailing journey.
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