The Best Breakup Songs: Angry, Empowering, and Sad Songs to Help You Mend

What's the best therapy a nasty breakup? A date with Jack Daniels? No, that's a bad idea. A date with Ben and Jerry? A slightly better idea, but still a bit on the self-destructive side. Instead, drown your sorrows with that age-old, alcohol and calorie free remedy-- the breakup song. Make yourself a mix CD or an iPod mix and blare the heck out of it in your car or on the treadmill.

Breakup songs are not hard to find. When you think about it, there's probably more of them out there than romantic love songs for weddings and such. Here's an eclectic list of breakup songs for you to choose from to suit your mood.

Angry Breakup Songs. We all have those moments when we blare angry music at full volume on our stereo in an attempt to release those toxic feelings. Here are some awesome angry breakup songs:

Sad Love Songs. Sometimes you just want to cry and feel sorry for yourself after a breakup. That's probably not a good long term habit, but we've all been there, and a pity party now and then never hurt anyone. Here's some fabulously sad and pathetic breakup songs when you just want to feel down for awhile:

Empowering Songs. These are the inspirational songs you play yourself when the initial pain has subsided and you're trying to make sense of things. The message of these songs is, "You hurt me, but ha! I'm strong and I don't need you." Here's some great empowering breakup songs:

Apr 25, 2008 12:37 PM

Guest :

U no wat really sucks? wen the man U luv luvs Ur sister & doesn't want 2 no that U luv him. + we're best friends! so deal w/ that & try not 2 fall apart. it's really hard.

Apr 25, 2008 2:07 PM

Guest :

Hey Josh! Guess what? You did exactly what you swore you wouldn't at the beginning a year and few months ago. And with you, you took all that was left of me.

Thats not going to be the end of me, though. I'll regrow, and this time I'm not going to be stupid enough to believe that there is decency in people like you.

Apr 26, 2008 10:07 AM

Guest :

Josh boyfriend of 8 months- recently broke up with me. he'd relaised his feelings for me had changed, he viewed me more as a friend, but still told me he loved me up until the day before he broke up with me! As well as still sleeping with me.
He even tried to love me but culdn't, this obviously makes me feel like the most special, beautiful girl in the world....
I even want to hate you but it's not working. Its the worst when u still love the person who killed you inside.

Apr 30, 2008 12:05 AM

Guest :

Crystal girlfriend of 5 months recently left well about 2 hours ago i've had some shity break ups but non of them hurt quite as much as this one did i mean hell i was with a girl for six years and when she left it still didnt hurt as much she said she needed her space well thank you crystal now you have all the dame space you need and i have what you left me with not a damn thing thanks for being just like the others your werent supposed to be good luck and i wish to god i could forget you

May 3, 2008 5:09 AM

Guest :

My bf and I broke up after I discovered a message he sent to a guy over facebook. I also found out he had profiles on some matching sites while we were together... Still... it hurts.

May 4, 2008 2:32 PM

Guest :

i think its best that me and my boyfriend part ways eventhough i love him,my heart cant deal with it

May 5, 2008 1:18 PM

Guest :

I started loving one girl (first time in my life), I told her that I love her and want to marry her. I told her take time and reply, even if she says me No, I'll never ask. Its almost 4 months, I'm still waiting. I don't have guts to go and speak with her on face. I feel that she is fully confused, she is not even ready to speak with me on that topic. However she can discuss it with her friends. I'm still waiting, I'm speaking with her via emails. However she told me that she is still thinking.. What should I do?

May 5, 2008 2:52 PM

Guest :

my boyfriend of 6 months all of a sudden decided he likes another girl, 3 years younger and started dating her 2 weeks after we broke up. i want to hate him, but i just cant. im still in love

May 5, 2008 7:08 PM

Guest :

as to the person who said they love someone who loves there sister...
well im in a relationship thats long distance and the guy is breaking up with me and talking to my TWIN
yeah... wat a sister right?
she was supposed to be helping me make this relationship work when all she is doing is help RUIN it for HERSELF

May 7, 2008 12:25 AM

Guest :

people suck

May 7, 2008 4:56 PM

Guest :

I broke up with my boyfriend because I new something felt wrong. We were together for more than 3 years. 2 months after breaking up with him I found out he cheated on me with my bestfriend last spring. How can someone say they love you, take you out to dinner, and kiss you when they cheat on you? I don't even want to know how many times he cheated on me. Needless to say, I am in the angry stage. And so thankful that I dodged that HUGE bullet... I thought I was going to marry him! Thank goodness it never came to that!!!

May 7, 2008 6:53 PM

Guest :

my boyfriend of 4 yrs proposed to me i said yes we bought a house and a couple months later he decided he didnt want to spend the rest of his life with me!! We still live together and he treats me like a girlfriend but says we arent dating and that he never said we wouldnt get back together but he doesnt want anybody .

May 8, 2008 8:26 AM

Alicia King :

An offshoot article that you might consider is "Songs for the Leaver". Almost all of the songs that are out there are for the one who's been left. Though some of your "empowering" tunes qualify (boots for walkin') very very very few songs exist for the person who's done the dumping.

My personal favorite of those is a country tune called "My give a Da*n is Busted" by Jo Dee Messina. I generally don't listen to country, but my mom sent that one to me as an anthem when I was getting out of a particularly lousy relationship.

May 8, 2008 3:53 PM

Angie Rayfield :

Another good one for having a bit of a cry is "I Fall to Pieces," whether you go with the original Patsy Kline or the duet by Aaron Neville and Trisha Yearwood. I'm not much of a country music fan, but it's sure a good source of break-up songs!

May 8, 2008 11:38 PM

Guest :

always broken..it hurts..

May 9, 2008 5:59 PM

Beverly Hill :

I personally like "Little Wonders" by Rob Thomas. Particularly the phrase, "let it roll right off your shoulders, don't you know...the hardest part is over...let it end"

May 10, 2008 7:16 AM

Guest :

I think that you should add the song "say goodbye" by skillet to the sad love songs column, its a really good song if you want to look it up

May 10, 2008 4:31 PM

Guest :

Sitting, Waiting, Wishing by Jack Johnson is a really good song. It helped me get over a really tough breakup.
"I can't always be playing your fool!"

May 11, 2008 6:30 PM

Guest :

i just broke up with my boyfriend of three months and i dont ever want to see him again!he told me that he pretty much used for about a month!!!!!!!!i feel like trash but he wanted something i didn't want to give did i do the right thing?

May 13, 2008 11:02 AM

Guest :

i love. love. love. ex-factor by lauryn hill. when we break up, when we fight, i drive around with that song up loud and sing along.

May 14, 2008 11:20 AM

Guest :

My boyfriend of six years not only moved me across the country to live with him, but had a girlfriend there and continue to see her while I was there behind my back. What a jerkbag. Thank god I found out sooner than later. I just want to forget him...take a bow by rihanna is a new good song

May 14, 2008 4:35 PM

Guest :

It just made it to 2 years and i thought he was perfect. I went to school and saw him making out with my bestfriend at the school. they saw me and she started to laugh. I ran off crying he chased me and told me that he loved me. i kicked him in his balls and dumped his ass. The girl is now my ex bestfriend. I still love him though he was my first.

Jun 6, 2008 5:18 PM

Guest :

Okay so get this..
ive been dating this guy for the past 3 years.
weve had a rough relationship year 1: in the beginning it was always on again off again. you know that kinda thing. but we pushed thru that.
year 2: we really hit it off...we were inseperable. i was so madly in love. my first real love. by the middle of the year...he asked me to marry him...we were still seniors in high school. i said yes, planning to have a long engagment. well a week later he moves across the country.
year3: we are always fighting, having trust issues. and one night i ended up in the hospital needing a heart transplant. he found out my chances of living werent good and flew down that night and stayed by my side. he promised to never leave me. a month later he had to go back up.
and now he just broke up with me. because he "doesnt feel the same way"
but i found out he was seeing another girl and he felt guilty.
so yeah...how the heck do i deal with that?!?!?
=[[[[[[[
i love him

Jun 7, 2008 9:01 AM

Guest :

It's funny, all through the many many years of human evolution, we've never lost the ability to have our hearts broken, even when that's the one thing that sets us back.

Jun 8, 2008 2:06 PM

Guest :

To the guy who's gf won't respond to the proposal, you sound like a sensitive and perceptive guy, you can do better. Move forward without her, and PLEASE continue to be the wonderful man that I am sure you are.

Jun 11, 2008 6:02 AM

Guest :

The man I spend the last 7 years with, and share 2 kids with, decided hes not in love with me anymore. a short background, started dating June 23rd, 2001, got pregnant in August...had another child in 2005, then financial issues forced us to move in june of 07, me to my fathers house with the kids, him to his parents where he had work. Now, a year later, when were supposed to be getting ready to move back in together he decides he doenst love me anymore. *we can live together for the kids, but we wont be together anymore*

How do I do it???

Jun 11, 2008 9:58 AM

Guest :

you know what really sucks when your man cheats on you then comes home and beats you, i know have broken teeth because i accused him of cheating on me and he snapped! you know what really sucks is that you give up everything for this man you thought was your soulmate and you cant leave because you have no where to go or he wont let you leave! you know what really sucks when he gets paid and doesnt get your perscriptions for 5 months! and last one, but you know what really sucks? when your man gets paid a nice check and hands you a 20 because he dont trust you ha thats funny! not really!

Aug 15, 2008 10:14 PM

Guest :

George-Boyfriend of almost 5 months known him since 4th grade....
he broke up with me july 17 at 4 am yes i know ur like how do u remember that well lets just say it was 2 days before we completed 5 months and i looked at the time 5 58 wen i figured he was goin to leave me.....im still in love with him right now he hasnt mentioned anythin to his mom bout our brake up and his mom thinks its because he might not want it to stay like that bcz he might b testin me but itz been a month im so fuckin hurt idk wat to do anymore sum1 please give me advice to my email dimplez_909@yahoo.com

Aug 16, 2008 12:36 PM

Guest :

Ross boyfriend of 9 months just decided that he wasn't happy, doesnt' know why but it must have to do with me so he broke up with me. Oh and I can't forget the best part is when he said he wasn't as into the relationship was I was. It makes me feel so great that I did everything I could possibly do to be a good girlfriend and I still love him and all he wants is the benefits that would come along with making me think we might get back together.

Aug 19, 2008 10:18 PM

Guest :

Well, my gf and I went out for 3 years and long story short she cheated on me and blamed me for it, so now that I am in a confused state I have gone back to the only music that makes sense. Music full of anguish. Here are a couple bands I am listening to...
Bullet for My Valentine. All these things I hate
Avenged Sevenfold. Lips of Deceit
Mudvayne. listen to the song called Happy?
Staind
SoulFly
Children of Bodom
Dark Tranquilitiy
Cradle of Filth
Disturbed etc...

Aug 19, 2008 10:31 PM

Guest :

My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me. He told me he was leaving for grad school and didnt want me to come with him because he didnt feel sure about the relationship. We tried to do the long distance thing, and 3 weeks after he moved out there he broke up with me. We talked on the phone for an hour before he said he couldnt do it anymore and that we couldnt see or talk to each other ever again. An hour earlier he had told me how much he loved me. I lost my boyfriend and my best friend in the same night. It still hurts and I still love him.

Aug 20, 2008 9:14 AM

Guest :

I was with my bf for a year and a few months.. and for the past 2 months he stopped comin out to see me and cancelled whenever we had plans, so i eventually had to break up with him. However i realised that its not a big enough thing to finish with him over so i said im sorry den we got back together, then the next day he finished with me and he wont even give me a reason and no matter how much i try to make us get back together he wont have it.. but he still tells me he loves me at the end of each text and says he will stil take me cinemas and he'll still give me goodbye kisses before i go home, so of course i still love him and i want to see him but he's just confusing me.. its like he doesnt want me but he just wants to make sure i cant ever move on! =(

Aug 20, 2008 12:21 PM

Guest :

And if I never fall in love, I'll never die a borken heart...

Aug 20, 2008 7:43 PM

Guest :

im inlove with someone whos never gona love me :( and is inlove with my best friend! and the lads also my best friend. I've felt this way for months x/3 and to be honest its killing me!
sad songs really help, because if im honest they say exactly how i feel, and there about the only things in this world that understand how i feel.. Also i personally think A fine Frenzy - Almost Lover ].. is a must song if your inlove with someone, whos never gona love you back but you want them to be HAPPY! :) x

Aug 21, 2008 1:40 AM

Guest :

my first love...at age 14 to 16...
sarah...i love her so much...we loved each other more than anything and anyone in the world and we were happy...we wanted to get married...and have a kid with our own house and we wanted to become famous together =']...i was going to be a rock singer and she would be a model or a cosmotologist who does famous make up...our day was perfect untill it took a turn for the worst...and i accidentally broke her heart...and my heart broke right along with it as i listened to her crying and telling me she never wanted to see me again...for hours i listened and cried along with her...and i called her back so many times because she wouldnt talk to me...i nearly killed myself and she stabbed me in the stomach when i tried to go talk to her...i almost OD'd on pills by the time i had walked home from that meeting. she still loves me but she says she refuses to be with me and wants to forget me...and she has had 3 or 4 boyfriends scince then...its been about 3 months...i have had...no other girlfriends because no one compairs and i want to fade away even still...we actually almost had a child but we decided not to because we were to young...i miss her so much...if i was cirtain that i could watch her from the dead then i would have killed myself long ago...

my only wish is to be with her forever...and i could never replace her...

iv been drowning myself in sadness every scince we broke up wiel she goes out and parties in an attempt to deal with her own pain...i know its not healthy for either of us but i cant stop her and the only way she could stop me is being with me so i doubt that will happen...but i know i will never lose contact with her and when we are old enough i will win her back and be with her...atleast thats what i want...life isnt fair in many ways...and love is one of them...if it were up to me...id change the world to be perfect...but i guess i cant do that can i...

Aug 21, 2008 5:57 PM

Guest :

i broke up with my girlfriend because i wasn't allowed to be with her. i love her so much and as much as i want her back, i cant put her through it again, as im STILL not allowed to be with her. i think shes now moved on, even though she says she still loves me. it hurts because at then end of our 14 month relationship, i was so mean to her, out of sheer frustration. i am still madly in love with her, but have to watch her move on as i sit helplessly. love sucks

Aug 21, 2008 8:09 PM

Guest :

i recently broke up with a great guy he took in my children and treated me great. i realized tho that i had stronger feelings for someone else who i had more of a bond with. i did the right thing i broke it off the with the guy i was with before pursueing things with the new guy. i still feel like crap that i hurt the old guy so bad, i watched his face as i broke his heart in the car. i wish the best for him and although we are still frineds and we still hang out it's so hard for me not to have feelings for him. i really care about the new guy and think he's the one otherwise i wouldn't have chosen him. he's great too but it sucks to break someones heart after such a wonderful year i still have love for him and it does feel good to see him getting out with his friends and getting over me but at the same time i still cry at night when i go to bed and think of him and the good times we had. i will miss him when i'm lonely at night but soon i will be ok and so will he.....til then jake i miss ya buddy bff still. your such a good guy!!! i really hope karma doesn't come around and matt hurts me that would suck

Aug 22, 2008 8:21 AM

Guest :

Met the man of my dreams, was the happiest girl in the world. A week before he breaks up with me, is telling me how much he cares about me, and how he really hopes that he shows it enough, and how lucky he is to have me. Hes telling the guys he works with that im his better 3/4 not his better half. Then breaks up with me 3 days later, because he is being sent to the other side of the country due to the military. Instead of talking about other options, he just breaks up with me. I have never hurt this bad. Its soo awful

Aug 23, 2008 3:58 PM

Guest :

wow ok my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and i am about 2 months pregnant(with his baby) im 16 he is 18, he tells me he loves me all the time and that he wants to get married when i turn 18 but hes always talking and flirting with girls, i always ask him about it then he gets mad at me and tells me he wants privecy, i look through his phone,myspace, and email,there are girls he is talking to he asks them pics and if they want to go hang out, i really dont understand why he is doing this, i would never think about cheating on him, 1 im pregnant, 2 im in love with him, but i just cant trust him anymore he lies to me all of the time, he tells me hes going with his friends but he really gos and meets girls, he evan tried to get one of my friends to hang out with him, then he lied about, i dont know how to deal with this anymore i cant tell my parents because the wouldnt understand, i wish there was a way to change all of this

Nov 28, 2008 7:39 AM

Guest :

the mother of my child "doesnt want a boyfriend right now" she "wants to do what she wants"

Nov 28, 2008 2:44 PM

Guest :

Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. Just sayin' So there, Tony - Don't let the door hit you on your way out!

Nov 28, 2008 5:51 PM

Guest :

having someone flirt with you all the time is cute...for awhile. then it just gets kinda old. you know you like him but something is holding you back. you try to be friends but he's too immature to handle it and doesn't think that you guys can ever talk again. you can say sorry all you want but it'll never get through his head. he cusses you out saying "the things i did the $h!* i took for you" and lar de lar. he probably never really did anything so he has nothing to say. maybe you should just move on.

Nov 28, 2008 9:27 PM

Guest :

Great list! Thanks.
You know what REALLY sucks? When the man you were in a relationship with drew things out to 10 months. And then, with no warning- the breakup! That's great when it happens.

Nov 29, 2008 1:19 PM

Guest :

Tyler:
I still really have feelings for you.
I just use those other guys to distract me from this broken feeling you left me with. And even though you're far away right now, the hurting has not stopped. No matter what anyone else says; I still believe that you are worth every tear. My heart is yours.

Nov 29, 2008 6:54 PM

Guest :

Do you leave before a relationship turns extremely bad...
or do you watch it fall to pieces? =/
Do you cry yourself to sleep everynight because all you do is fight...
Or breakup with him and become depressed?
Ugh...love is so complicated.
Why can't it be perfect?
Each day is always something different.
A new fight, new reason why he can't make time for me...

Nov 29, 2008 10:58 PM

Guest :

my boyfriend and i dated for a year and a half. we had some tough times but we were going to get back together after a rough breakup. then he decided that he wanted to date other girls and he just completely ignored me and blew me off. even worse, he made up a FAKE GIRLFRIEND. made a facebook of her. he wanted to be alone, well now he can be. if he ever wants me back, i'll tell him to go cuddle with his fake girlfriend. im sure she must be a good kisser. what he did to me was so cruel. i can't eat or sleep or go a day without crying. but im not going to give up hope. if someone is that cruel to put you through something that horrible, and watch it, and ENJOY it, then do they really deserve the love and care you'd give them anyways??

Nov 30, 2008 5:43 PM

Guest :

Love sucks the guy i been with for 3yrs. just brole up with me 4 days ago and it sucks... i feel like crap i dont kno if i should cry or b mad i mean we always break up and get back togeter but it feels diffrent this time i think he might b talking to someone else but idk we still talking but he hasnt yet said if were still together or not i ask n he says he dosen kno gosh i hate this feeling...

Nov 30, 2008 6:34 PM

Leigh Hopkins :

Indigo Girls, In Love With Your Ghost. Crushing!

Nov 30, 2008 7:33 PM

Guest :

"Different Drum," as performed by the Stone Ponys (sung by Linda Ronstadt. Written by Mike Nesmith of The Monkees, and one of the best breakup songs ever.

Dec 2, 2008 7:38 AM

Guest :

been 3 months since me and my ex split, and its got no better
we split the day before my dad went ot prison and a week after my mate died
classic timing. so heartless

Dec 2, 2008 12:25 PM

Guest :

I lived with a man for 13 years, I found out 6 days ago that he has a 2yo child with a girl living down the street! She was in my house while I was at work and he sat on his ...! What kind of crap is that? I thew him out of the house and he moved in with her, then he leaves emails me saying its my fault that he did this...I made him? I still love him but there is NO way I want him back. We have not spoke since he moved his stuff into her house!

Dec 2, 2008 3:54 PM

Guest :

I told myself I would never love a guy sooo much,that way i didnt get hurt. But I fell in love with a guy named kevin. we were so in love. We did stupid things, were best friends, but mostly just sayed in love. Until one day he decided that the new girl was prettier than me, and I wasnt good enough anymore. I miss him so much, he was the love of my life. I cry everytime I hear his name. I want him back so bad.

Dec 2, 2008 8:11 PM

Guest :

i broke up with someone i still love. i did it because i knew he was going to. its apparant that he hates me even tho he said "i love you" and "im not mad at you." he lied to me about how he felt. i have a friend whos a guy, and my ex would get mad every time i talked to that guy, apparently, but he never told me, so i never knew anything was wrong. now he calls me a slut and got all of his friends, including that one guy i was friends with, to hate me too. i hate that i still love him

Dec 3, 2008 9:04 AM

Guest :

so this is really great. the songs totally made me feel better

Dec 3, 2008 2:08 PM

Guest :

scenario: my best friend with whom i shared everything and told everything, knew just how much i liked this boy for a long time [also had heard that he liked me too and she knew that]. she was going out with my crush's best friend that time. suddenly she and my crush start flirting right in front of me and her boyfriend!!!! our friendhsip was on a steady way downhill.pretty soon she breaks up with her boyfriend and the flirting reaches a whole new level. after some time she confesses to me on msn that she has started liking my crush [like that wasnt obvious!!!]....finally theY have started going out now....i dont talk to her anymore...hurts every single time i see them together!!

Dec 4, 2008 7:22 AM

Guest :

My ex broke up with me but still told me that he loved me so that i'd have sex with him. he kept it up right until he got a new girlfriend and then decided he didn't want anything to do with me anymore. cheers love.

Dec 4, 2008 10:39 AM

Guest :

Me and my boyfriend just broke up on Tuesday and I've dumped many but this one has never hurt as much to do.I caught him with one of my best friends.It hurts!

Dec 4, 2008 7:56 PM

Guest :

i had this girl and she had my heart it wa only 2 months but i had completly fallen for me and she cheated on me with me bestfried.....

Dec 7, 2008 3:52 PM

Guest :

you know what sucks? having the guy you want not want you back.....

Dec 7, 2008 6:43 PM

Guest :

my bestest friend in the whole world loves me but hates me and then keeps changing. he has broken my heart way too many times and now i have been deeply depressed for about 2 weeks now. wen im around him, my friends are always saying he's staring at you. do u know how bad THAT SUCKS????? nothing can make me feel better about this. i even told him that he broke my heart. he doesnt freakin care and yet he tells every person he know that im awesome, he's such a FREAKIN jerk. but i still cant stop lovin him. thats wats so depressing. nithing can cheer me up and right at the moment im still crying, wanting to die to get this all over with. i hate him soooo mcuh, but i cant stop loving him for the world. its too hard for me. i hope that someday i will get over this, cuz right now, i cant handle even looking at his face. and to top it all off, i saw him, and he turned and started walking away from me at the mall. how bad would that HURT!!!! freakin jerk. i hope ur happy u retard!!!

Dec 7, 2008 9:04 PM

Guest :

This Sux!My BF of 2 years, cheated on me 8 months ago.I took him back, and it was good for about a month, then he told me I should quit my job, stay home and take care of our daughter, so I did. Little did I know this was his way of trapping me, because i now depended on hime for most of our income(i get a little money every month)So he continued to treat me like dirt. Disappearing for days, never inviting me to go anywhere with him any more, and never calling me when he did disapper. So I got fed up and finally broke up with him for good today, because he went out last night and didnt come home until 6:00 today. Of course i got no phone call or text to let me know what was going on.I've been sitting here most the day wondering if he is dead, in the hospital or in jail. He finally came home, and I told him i couldnt do it anymore and i needed to break-up with him. He then told me he was going to sleep with some1 else 2nite, then he left, and then sent me a lovely text message telling me how much of a dumbass i am, because i am now going to be homeless with our daughter. and i don't really know what to do, because he is right, i am now going to be homeless. SO i ask you do i continue to let myself b treated this way, or do i take my daughter to a homeless shelter until i can get back on my feet? Either solution seems to suck to me. JJ SUCKS! and he is a terrible father! * there now i feel a little better*

Dec 8, 2008 10:40 PM

Guest :

I loved my fiance with all my heart. I gave him my all, but I guess it was not enough. We broke up becuase all we did was fight. I did not want to be in a relationsip were all I do is fight with the one I love the most. I hope his desicion to break up leads me to happiness.

Dec 8, 2008 10:47 PM

Guest :

Couple of songs to add to the list: Angry - "F*ck You" by The Headstones; empowering - "Since U been Gone" - Kelly Clarkson and "Feeling Good" by Nina Simone (not really a love song, but definately always makes me feel better)

Dec 9, 2008 4:59 AM

Guest :

my boyfriend and i broke up just over three days ago, and i'm still sort of hurt. i can't keep my mind off him, i dont think an hour goes past with him being thought of at least 5 times. the day before he dumped me, he told me he wanted a break because he was stressed out from work. I was confused at this, because only a few hours before he wanted this break he was telling me i was the best girlfriend he had ever had and his feelings for me were so strong.

so, confused, i let him have the break. but not without asking him if this was as an easy way for him to dump me. He swore to me it wasn't, that he just needed some time to himself. the next day however, he actually did end it with me, saying it just didnt feel right anymore.
a day after all this happened, he's already found a new girl... calling her all the names he used to call me, hanging out with her, flirting with her.

it hurts to know i was replaced so easily, but i will NEVER let him get me down. though i may feel unimportant now, i have friends and family who love me and i can get through this easily.
reading these stories helped in some way, it let me know i wasnt the only one out there going through this. stay strong everyone :) you really inspired me to move on, thank you.

Dec 9, 2008 6:16 AM

Guest :

ok so I had this bestfriend right! He was amazing we hung out all the time and when i would break up with someone he was always there 4 me. well after a really hard break up with my first he was there for me once again. but this time it was diferent, i could tell he liked me but i just kept blowing him off cuz i really didn't want to ruin our friendship. but one day i completely fell for him, i mean head over heels. We went out for about 6 months and then all of a sudden he lost his feelings for me. my heart was crushed. we sat and talked for over 3hours about all the amazing things we have done together and then it was over. I miss him so much its rediculous. to this day we dont even talk. I have neer felt that way with anyone in my life i was completely myself with him. and yeah it hurts losing him as a boyfriend but it kills me that i lost my bestfriend. i will always love him

Dec 9, 2008 11:39 AM

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Dec 9, 2008 4:02 PM

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my bf decided to cheat on me from the day that he asked me out till the day i broke up w/ him and thentold me it was all my fault that i wasnt a good gf to him when all i ever freakin did was give him my everything even though i knew that he was cheating on me. and now he doesnt even talk to me yet he still talks to some of my best friends of which he never even would have known had i not introduced them! yet even through all of his bull crap and his lies.....the only thing i want to do still is give him all my love and be able to say "i love you until the day i die". he changed so much after we broke up. or maybe i changed but idc im still in love w/ what i cant have and nothings goin to change that. and it hurts so bad to love someone you know that you should hate because all they do is cause you pain and suffering

Dec 10, 2008 6:14 AM

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I was with my husband for 12 years, married for 8. We share 2 beautiful children and I had high hopes for the future. I find out after we move in with his parents that he cheated (and is still currently) on me with a person I considered a friend. Not only that, this "female" (she isn't worthy of being called a woman) had a boyfriend who works with my husband. We did a lot of things together, and all four of us grew close, only those two crossed too many lines. His friends, family, and co-workers are all behind me since they knew what a good woman I am. For anyone who has a broken heart, I won't lie, time doesn't heal all wounds...scars can last forever. My anthem, that I feel should be added is "Never Again" by Kelly Clarkson.

Dec 10, 2008 11:14 AM

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Hail! Definitely should B added to angry break-up songs:
"Shedding Skin" (Pantera)
"Love, Hate, Love" (Alice In Chains)
"Your Time Is Gonna Come" (Led Zeppelin)

Dec 10, 2008 11:29 AM

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You know what's even sadder,
When your boyfriend dumps you.
The week before Christmas.
Two weeks before your birthday.
Three weeks befre his.
And on the 18 month aniversary.
I thought he loved me...

Dec 11, 2008 8:32 AM

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of course it's terrible to be broken up with...
but when you have to break up with the guy you love and crush your own heart....
that's worse..
i miss him. I'm trying so hard to be strong.
but i know that God will lead me on the right path to happiness.

Dec 12, 2008 8:36 AM

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What really sucks is when you have been with a man for five years and have gave him everything and supported him even when he screwed up. but he turns around and wants his cake and eat it too. but swears he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you and expects you to forgive HIM!!!! I have a two year old child with this man and he has never gave me any clue there were problems. He went behind my back twice first time after i bailed him out of jail and tried to hook up with the ugliest girl then 11 months later (few days ago) is telling this girl at work how good she looked adn that we were seperated! How can you get past that?

Dec 12, 2008 9:32 AM

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the person i love and i have been ona nd off for 3 years. he left for iraq. like freaking signed up for it to punish me. now hes gone for 2 years and i call him everyday and cry and we fight and last night he told me he couldnt do it anymore that it was too much stress on him. i died inside. i complain about him when were together but absolutely fall apart when we arent. whats wrong with me? whats wrong with us? i know we are meant for eachother but why is it so hard? he purposed last august three months after he left. the next day i called my dad and told him. i had money saved up and was going to fly to texas where he was stationed. i tried to call him but he didnt answer for three days. finally his sargent called me and told me he was in an accident. i asked to talk to him and he was weird. like he was confused why i had called him. he didnt remember working it out. he didnt remember proclaiming our love and the purposal or anything. i thought i was going to have a stroke. i told him i was glad he ok and didnt call him for 8 months. the day of my 20th birthday and was nervous. i was suprised he called and was very excited. he kept calling and checking in with me. then finally one night i told him what happened and why i stopped calling. he cried for three hrs on the phone with me and said he knew inside that was how he felt but was too scared to tell me. now after 3 years of fighting and crying and being young and growing to being scared and angry its over and im lost. im numb. we have a child together and all my family and friends dont even know what happened. i dont think these songs will work.

Dec 13, 2008 1:27 PM

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hey I was 18 when I got pregnet and my boyfriend and I were engaged, and set the date but a month before are date I got pregnet it took 3 months for him to tell me sorry your not what I want in my life.
now 4 years have pasted and I have a child got married last year and my ex. gets my kid 9am to 9 pm every sunday cos. he's been proven the dad. THING noone ever lets you know even with or with out child suport he has rights you not so many and if he wants to remove the kid from you all he has to do is have a 2 bedroom apartment, a steady pay, and be able to buy food (my advice for you girls be careful who you sleep with cos. you might have to hate him everyday and share children time) p.s if they want over-nights to everynight all they have to do is ask for it in juve. court.
I had open vistation set up and he lied in court saying I have never let him see his child. Take photos and keep a diary from the day you met him on also ask questions his fam and frinds you really need to know the person you with cos. quickly everything can change.
sorry I ever loved the guy!!!

Dec 13, 2008 3:08 PM

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a very helpful site

Dec 13, 2008 3:28 PM

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Hey brian, i've had enough of you and your love songs displaying on msn, you think it was my fault? you got dumped because you deserved it, how could you go behind my back with 3 other girls?! you told me you loved me, you told me i was the one, you told me i was special, you told me you would never do me wrong- what a bunch of bullshit lies, trying to follow a fairytale because you cant decide on your own. flirting with them and saying you liked them... sure tell me it wasnt that kind of "like" and beg with your head down. well im over you, and i cant believe i cried for you & when i look back i see that you were never the one i liked.and everything you do, you cant face the fact that i can breathe without you, so hate on me you fkin turd. Chopped N screwed just like your song that you keep playing huh? tell me how you miss me, its okay i dont want you coming back here. GIVES YOU HELL ALL AMERICAN REJECTS, your face already gives me hell cos your so fkin ugly. oh ? still wondering how i found out that you were flirting with those sluts? your best friend told me with proof , and yea he did ask me out before you so you can just go on your bed and cry over me, i never gave it my all because you were all over the place, go ahead and tlel your friends im a slut but guess what? i told mine you were gay

Dec 13, 2008 6:49 PM

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Joel, you treated me like I was a second class citizen, and I felt so disrespected, I couldn't take it. I realized that I had to get out before I got hurt even more. It hurt to get out, but it hurt more to stay in. When you walked into my work today and I saw you, I almost broke down. But I held my own as they kicked you out. How dare you. I'm worth so much more than you. I couldn't believe you came in with my best friend and her friend, who you told me you almost cheated on me with last week. You're impossible to believe.

For anyone else dealing with a jerk like Joel, listen to Into The Airwaves by Jack's Mannequin.

Anyone

Dec 13, 2008 11:10 PM

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im only 15 and my boyfriend of 8 months and I broke up because I wouldn't go any futher physically with him, and he said he loved me more than anything but he needed that in a relationship, and then wouldn't tell me whether we were together or not, so I told him that we should end it. And you know what he said to me, 'I've waited 8 months already, I dont know how much longer I can wait' when he had never even mentioned it before. And The he tried to blame us breaking up on me not being 'affectionate' enough :S

all your stories are so sad! *hugs for everyone*

broken hearts suck ey?
xx

Dec 14, 2008 12:44 AM

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it's been 5 years since the break up.
i could have any other man i wanted,
but i wanted only him.

i have learned to live and deal with pain,
but there is still no getting used to it.

Dec 15, 2008 12:17 PM

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kelly clarkson-since youve been gone needs to be on here

Dec 15, 2008 6:22 PM

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A really good song to post is nbeautiful by Lesley ROy. It's a tear jerker!

Dec 15, 2008 9:24 PM

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What do you do when you know you are in love with someone that is so wrong for you? I mean honestly I know I am in love with him but I think that he is just to bad for me. He makes me cry all the time and he makes me upset. Everyone tells me not to be with him. But I still continue to be with him. I don't know what to do anymore. As much as I love him I am thinking that it is time to move on...what should i do?

Dec 16, 2008 2:32 PM

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we love the people that hurt us
and hurt the people that love us.
its so simple yet so hard.
its hard to move on.

Dec 16, 2008 3:46 PM

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Daughtry- Over You

"Cause the day I thought I'd never get through, I got over you."

Dec 16, 2008 6:24 PM

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I'm always looking for songs that relate to my situation because that means i'm not the only
one going through this. I was dating this guy off and on for two years, we broke i had a really
bad day, i needed him, he left me to go to a lacross game. I will never forget all the shit he
put me through but i still love him. I know i screwed in the relationship a lot but...he just
went to college and left me. He turned into someone else. I feel like he doesn't even remember
me. It hurts because i'm still in love with him and i can't stop thinking about him. I don't know
how i'm going to go through this. I know i'm only 17 years old but it hurts so much.
I don't know whats wrong with me? How could we plan so much and then he just forgets everything
about us.

Dec 17, 2008 12:32 PM

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plain white t's - hate is a strong word

Dec 17, 2008 8:00 PM

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I am a gay guy who had been in a r'ship for 3 years......we had barely spent a day apart.....a month ago we broke up - he told he he had no feelings for me and i should move on but remain friends.
So I started dating again, however my ex decided that he wanted the guy i was seeing, and now i have neither of them.
Does anyone know a good song for this situation? I'm wrecked.

Dec 17, 2008 8:24 PM

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so i lived with the guy for over a year; till me slept with another girl in our bed. we moved out and recently called me to tell me he is moving in with this new girl he hasnt even know for over a month! granted he is her problem now but when we shared out whole lives together its so hard to just get over him! help!

Dec 17, 2008 8:26 PM

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Dec 17, 2008 9:06 PM

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yeah my boyfriend left me for my best friend
i thought that would never happen in real life
guess i was wrong

Dec 18, 2008 1:00 AM

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I think you all know what I mean when I say: When a guy says "I just dont want to hurt you"... THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE DOING!!!

Dec 18, 2008 1:40 PM

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i fell in love with the girl of my dreams ............then she stepped on my heart after 3 months ................i will never forget how she didnt even frown ...................

Dec 18, 2008 6:56 PM

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me and my bf had been together for 2 years when we started fighting everything i had went down hill his best friend and team mate was always there for me and helped me through so much i genuinely thought i met the right guy finally, turns out he was just trying to get in my pants because of a bet and i fell for ever stupid cheesey pathetic line, so in less than one month i lost best friend/boy friend and some guy i thought was worth it. I can't believe i was so stupid and now that i look back i understand the phrase you dont know what you got till it's gone though my ex is dating someone else i miss him so much and i truly know i screwed up if he ever could give me a second chance i'd spend the rest of my life proving i deserved that chance because though we went through some difficult patches i know now that love isn't perfect it's messy and difficult but thats what makes it beautiful i just wish he could understand i've changed because when i lost him i lost everything.

Dec 18, 2008 9:01 PM

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i don't know much about love, but man I've been best friends with this girl for two and a half years. in the last three months she's been leading me on like crazy and I was so happy because I had always looked at her like that. but than I guess some better looking guy started to get interested and she just stopped talking to me. I guess she was just wasting my time so she could feel better about herself? people are awesome.

Dec 18, 2008 9:01 PM

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Dec 18, 2008 9:51 PM

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my ex left me the day after our 3 year anniversary and just called me up on the phone and told me he never wanted to see me again

Dec 19, 2008 12:30 AM

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well me and this girl have been dating for 2 years now all through out high school and just out of no where she decides that she feels it would be best if she does her own thing now and this is alreayd after i virtually gave up everything for her i mean as bad as i wanna hate her i still wanna be wit her but now all she wants to do is just be friends and she is alreayd dating people a week after we broke up i fucking hate heartless people there no wonder so much people just dont give a fuck its cuz there is always someone else who made them this way

Dec 19, 2008 1:56 AM

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Best of You- Foo Fighters
One of THE best breakup songs ever

Dec 19, 2008 8:38 PM

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my ex josh and i dated for a year and 8 months (14 to 16) i am currently 17years old. we broke up 14 months go. and during the time we were together he cheated on me, manipulated me, controlled me nd just treated me like shit. about 8 months after we'd broken up (this past june) he called me and told me he was sorry and that he missed me and he swore that he'd changed. so i agreed to see him and he seemed a lot different. so we kind of got back otgether over the summer started saying thing like the l bomb again. then school started and we were still hanging out and talking. then one day he told me he wanted to see me but it ended up not working out and he had said I love you." to me that day. i find out two days later he asked some chick out and he didnt even remotely tell me he was interested in anyone. i havent talked to him in almost three months and theyre still dating

hows that for fucked up?

Dec 21, 2008 5:13 PM

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i had gone out with this boy for 6 months. he was my first everything. my first love first boy i was faithful too and took seriously. i gave up my virginity up to him after knowing how important it is to me.
my parents didnt want me with him so i ran away with him to be with him bc i loved him. we anted to get married and all and we both thought i was pregnet. but then one day he decided to cheat on me.
so i broke up with him and it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do bc i still was in love with him but if he did that to me he obviously didnt love me
-snuggle wuggle

Dec 21, 2008 5:23 PM

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Tom- Boyfriend of 3 years and love of my life. met when we were 15 dated all through high school, long distance when i left for college, and when he graduate and went to my school with me things fizzled. He found a religious group of friends and decided the physical aspect of our relationship had to end. Killed me. Basically a snowball effect from there. He broke up with me cold, no emotion... I cried. Said I wasnt encouraging his relationship with God so he had to say goodbye. Promised he wanted to stay single for a while, two months later found a new girlfriend. I pray daily to forget all the memories of us happy.