Signs of a Rebound Relationship
Unhappiness and Inability to Forget the Ex Reveal a Rebound
Even though there are many signs of a rebound relationship, it is not always easy to decide if an unhappy relationship is a rebound relationship. When a lover is the rebound date (i.e. he or she is not the one who started this relationship), it is even more difficult to identify correctly if an unhappy relationship is a rebound one.
The two main signs of a rebound relationship are the inability to forget the ex and unhappiness with the present partner. James Houran, Ph.D lists more signs of a rebound relationship but even the inability to forget the ex and the unhappiness with the present partner are enough to ring a bell.
While these signs are easy to spot, one shouldn't jump to a conclusion that any relationship where they are manifested is a rebound one. Fair judgment should be applied because every relationship, no matter if it is a rebound one or not, is different.
Can't Forget the Ex
It is true that there are exes, who can't be easily forgotten, even after a long period of time, but when this interferes with the present it is not good. There are many ways in which an ex can't be forgotten – one can constantly be thinking of him or her, one could mention his or her ex too often, one could try to reestablish contacts with the ex, just to name a few. Sometimes the love for the ex could be hidden from the new partner and this makes it more difficult for the new partner to figure out that he or she is simply being used as a rebound date.
One of the most unpleasant things for a rebound date are the constant comparisons to the ex. This could be really humiliating because, in a sense, the rebound partner is competing with ghosts from the past.
Unhappy With the Present Partner
The second common sign of a rebound relationship is unhappiness with the present partner. The present partner might surpass the ex in any area but still the rebounder is not happy with his or her new date. While in some cases it could be expected that as time passes by, the rebound dater will start liking the present partner (or at least won't voice his or her dissatisfaction so loudly), this is not something to rely on.
Remember, the rebound relationship started as a means to mend a broken heart, not because the two partners were genuinely attracted to each other. What is more, sometimes it is possible to accept the shortcomings of the other party, but as the relationship develops, these shortcomings become more and more irritating.
The situation gets more complicated if the rebound relationship evolves into a rebound marriage, because in this case it is even more difficult to quit. It is sad how many people are in such a situation only because they didn't quit the rebound relationship while they could!
Signs of a Rebound Relationship
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