Benefits of Being Single

How To Be Happily Unattached

May 22, 2007 Cherie Burbach

Here are a few reminders of why you should enjoy every moment of your single life!

There are more ways than ever to find the right person for you. Until then, here are just a few reasons to celebrate your single status.

1) Flirting is encouraged

You don't have to feel guilty about staring at that cutie from the coffee place, or oogling a particular hotie on the street.

2) Your money is your own

If you want to blow a week’s salary in Vegas, it's entirely up to you. There's no one to nag you to put it in the bank for a rainy day.

3) All the covers are yours

No waking up cold. No pulling blankets off of someone else just so you can get a few hours sleep. (And no one snoring all night to interrupt your peaceful shut-eye.)

4) Let your spirits fly!

Having a great day? Your partner can’t come home and dampen your mood. Conversely, you don’t need to cheer up anyone else.

5) You can leave your socks anywhere you want

No one will nag you to pick them up. You also won’t have to pick up socks or underwear that isn’t yours!

6) You get to meet new people

Dating is a fun activity. You get to know new people and learn what makes them tick. You can have conversations about anything and everything - not just about your significant other's day or what your kids did in school. Best of all, in going out on different dates you'll be stretching your comfort zone and discovering new activities you might not have otherwise tried.

7) You don’t answer to anyone

If Sunday is your day to watch the game, hang out at the bookstore, or swing by every rummage sale in town, no one can tell you otherwise. If you want to go to the gym or eat popcorn for dinner? Go ahead!

8) You can devote more time to your career

Singles are sometimes envious when their married coworkers duck out at five to pick up the kids, but being on your own can have distinct advantages at work. You’re more flexible; you can bail out your boss by devoting more time to an important new project and even jump on a last-minute flight to sooth an angry client. This type of availability can make your boss take notice, and hopefully, reward you.

9) Meet your friends whenever you’d like

Married and otherwise attached folks are sometimes not as flexible as their single counterparts when it comes to keeping up with friendships. So when the guys decide to grab a beer and wings at the last minute or the girls plan an after-work get together you can easily join them without worrying about someone else’s schedule.

10) You only have one set of relatives to deal with

While it can be great to have a large family get together with both sides of an extended family, it can also be a headache at times. If you’re someone that prefers a more quiet holiday by just dealing with one goofy family (your own), being single can afford you a calmer celebration.

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Nov 6, 2008 3:43 PM

Guest :

i had a boyfriend but it didn't last that long... now, i feel so alone but i still believe this being single have reasons... thanks to your article.. it helped me open some thoughts to be happy again.

Feb 4, 2009 1:46 PM

Guest :

I've had 2 boyfriends both were okay. My 2nd boyfriend just brokeup with me 2 months ago and I love being single. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I can flirt with cute guys and don't have to feel guilty about it. I am going to saty single for a while and enjoy it before going back to the dating world. I'm just a teen and hey I LOVE BEING ON MY OWN!

May 13, 2009 11:43 AM

Guest :

I like this article! Its giving an encouragement of staying happy being as a single lady.

May 16, 2009 1:10 PM

Guest :

I'm a single guy, who loved being in a relationship. Everytime I get out of one, I jump right back into a long-term one again! I am so committed to a relationship that my girl left me after 6 years then a month later I'm in one with a great girl for 4 years that decided she wasnt feeling the same as I was. This single thing is going to take getting used to, but these 10 upsides are a great motivator to remain on my own for a while!

Aug 19, 2009 8:10 PM

Guest :

Wow, I was starting to feel bummed after wathcing so many corny chick flicks, but if you watch, they're all single when they find their happy ever after! So when your single (and not tied dwon with the wrong guy) when you see him you know it's him. Plus you don't ahv e to worry about having to bail on dates cause of fam, school, etc.

Sep 21, 2009 10:43 PM

Guest :

Indeed, there is nothing wrong with being single! In my opinion, a person should definitely not put pressure on him or herself to get "coupled".

Simply put, if you meet the "love of your life", you do. If you don't, hold off! I beg of you... Whatever you do, make sure that if you ever do leave singledom behind, it's for the right person. All too often, I see people who are in long term relationships exclusively out of convenience or because they think that's what they are supposed to be doing. And then, the real "love of their life" comes along. This usually results in one of the following:

1. Messy break-up/divorce
2. Long, drawn-out affair with other person
3. Denial of true feelings and depression

I speak from experience when I say that the last thing you want to be is depressed.

Being single can also lead to depression, but I believe this is largely due to the stigma society gives to singledom. So, singles, cheer up! You have nothing to apologize for.

Sep 25, 2009 1:58 PM

Guest :

One of the reasons I lost my feelings for ex-boyfriend was because he was nagging at me constantly. It's great to be able to do whatever you like and not having to report to anyone. I've also gone through feelings of depression, because I could not enjoy being single for a while and due to my lowered self-esteem dated men who were unsuitable for me. I don't get people who have never been single - being single is a great time for self-development, I've evolved so much as a person since I left my boyfriend. I realised that when I met him I was actually on a lower level of esteem and as my confidence grew, he was no longer a person for me. Now I believe that it is possible to find a partner who matches with you in a way that is not claustrophobic and who lets you evolve. Not everyone are stereotypes of what men/women/partners/relationships should be. Until I find a suitable partner, I'll stay single.

Dec 23, 2009 8:28 PM

Guest :

excellent. In particular, it is useful for those people who have failed miserably in love and have decided to live a single life.

Jan 18, 2010 3:16 PM

Guest :

I like it, i can add you can leave your hair curly because it comes natural and you're beautiful the way God made you. Screw damanding ex's.

Jan 25, 2010 1:16 AM

Guest :

great thanx

Feb 3, 2010 5:00 PM

Guest :

I reached the age of 41 with no commitments,while trying to have mutual understanding relationships with my past best friends!But it always broke my heart if the closeness did not work out! I don't enjoy being alone because I wanna love and to be loved,the most exciting part of everyone's life!Now I found this article,I think I am not alone,I learn to love myself and do not lety other to manipulate and use me!My imaginary partner is my "SOUL"!

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