Falling in love is a fantastic feeling. But if your partner just looks at you as a temporary thing, it can make you feel foolish that you let your guard down. How do you spot the difference?
Here are a few signs to let you know if you’re “the right one” or just “the one right now.”
You look forward to the weekend so you and your partner can have some quiet, romantic moments.
If you’re the right one:
- Your partner has set up a plan to get together with you by midweek. You may not have all the details set yet, but you know which night you’ll be seeing each other and what time your date will start.
If you’re the one right now:
- You won’t be able to get a hold of your partner until the start of the weekend, or later. Your partner makes plans with you eventually, but they seem lukewarm about the idea of getting together. While they are nice enough when you’re with them, you always seem to feel as if you have to hold back any excitement at seeing them for fear that they’ll fail to respond the same way.
Your partner’s birthday is coming up, so you search in advance for that perfect item they offhandedly said they wanted a few months back. You know they didn’t think you’d remember, but you wrote it down the minute you got home, then immediately began searching the Internet so it would arrive in time for their big day.
If you’re the right one:
- Your partner will be touched that you not only remembered them, you got them exactly what they wanted. They indicate how thoughtful you are; they sincerely thank you and give you a sweet and touching hug when they finally run out of grateful words. They tell you how lucky they are to have met you.
If you’re the one right now:
- Your partner seems embarrassed that you got them something. While they like the gift, they keep saying, “You shouldn’t have done that. No really, I wish you wouldn’t have done that.” They act awkwardly toward you and you get the distinct impression they are dismayed that now they’ll probably have to get you something for your birthday.
You tell your partner you can’t wait to meet their friends and family, but you are worried they might not like you.
If you’re the right one:
- Your partner says, “What’s not to like! I love you. I’m sure they will, too.”
If you’re the one right now:
- Your partner says, “My mother has never liked anyone I’ve ever dated, so I’m sure it will be the same with you.”
